Monthly Archives: November 2014

Who Are You Listening To?

There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed. ~Ray Goforth

This saying I believe is so true thus the question becomes, “Why, are you listening to them?” The first one can’t give you positive encouragement. It could be that it’s the same speech someone else gave them and now they’re passing it on to you. Fear has taken hold of them so tightly that they are unable to see past just existing. The second won’t give you positive encouragement no matter how much you ask for it. Instead of being happy for you jealousy, resentment and fear of being left behind becomes a part of their makeup.  There will always be people not wanting you to succeed. Obviously neither of these two a are good for you.

So where do you find your encouragement and inspiration? Start with YOU. You are the main nurturer of your hopes and dreams. Then surround yourself with others who will feed and fuel those hopes and dreams? You may ask where do you find them. Look around you many are already there, parents, teachers, true friends, colleagues, mentors and a host of people you have yet to encounter.

So starting today walk away from the negative people and draw closer to those who will root for you and provide useful advice and encouragement. Keep in mind that really successful people love to share their knowledge so avail yourself of it. The limits to what you can achieve is all up to you. You’re in the driver’s seat. Even if you have a misstep don’t stop. It’s not a failure it’s just something that didn’t work. Keep trying until you reach your goal. And always be willing to make adjustment when needed.

The positive people in your life will be there to help you as long as you are helping yourself. So decide today who are you listening to?



Motivational Monday – Life

Motivational Monday says:  “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away”.

The above quote has been attributed to anonymous, so why not let it be a part of you! Find your gift, we all have a gift some have more. But find that one gift that when given away enriches the lives of the people you meet. It could be the gift of compassion so that when you see someone suffering you are compelled to not only have compassion but offer of yourself in order to help.

Your gift could be that of teacher, inspiration, encouragement, administration, etc. The list goes on and on. The main point is to not hold tight to the gift but to spread it around. You’ll be amazed at what you receive in return.

So this day take stock of who you are. What gift(s) do you have that can benefit others?



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Pain – What Does it Mean?

I recently had a visit to the dentist. It all started because I had a scheduled cleaning and during the cleaning mentioned I’d had some sensitivity to hot or cold  and it was beginning to give me a nagging bit of pain. Now I must admit visits to the dentist have always terrified me since the day a dentist decided to cram as much work as possible in a short amount of time. This decision resulted in excruciating pain that sent me to the emergency room to get some relief! As a result of that incident I now wear a partial because I simply refused to visit a dentist again for the longest time. I do regret that but the idea of having someone in my mouth would cause me to hyperventilate in anticipation of pain.

Now years later and after finally finding a place to relax (a little) when this pain nudged me I made an appointment. Suffice it to say I went in expecting to have one tooth extracted and ended up with two and one of those happen to have two nerves. Now I won’t get too graphic but it took SEVERAL shots to dull me where I didn’t feel pain. During the process I think I was gripping the arms of the chair while tears were running down my face. My heart was pounding so loudly in my ears it felt like a set of drums! But I survived! Two days later I’m almost back to normal.

Pain is your body’s way of telling you when something is wrong. of course there are various types of pain. Tooth, head, arm etc. but what about your heart? Not the kind that could signal a heart attack or stroke but the kind that signals to your emotions that you are going through a different type of crisis. This type can cause you to question who you are, whether you made bad choices and decisions or whether you put too much trust in another human being.

This type of pain can be devastating but if you take the time to step back you’ll be grateful for this temporary pain. Why? Once the rawness of the pain has diminished the lesson or scars can help you in future relationships. You’ll learn to listen to that inner voice that warns you something isn’t quite right. It’ll help you to make wiser choices and decisions going forward. But only if you listened and learned from the first pain.

So if you think about it pain can be your friend. And like a true friend it will tell you the unvarnished truth. The memory of the pain may fade but in the back of your mind you’ll remember what it felt like and will do all you can to avoid that type of pain again.

Yes, pain is my friend but it’s a friend I don’t need to visit often. How about you?