Category Archives: faith

Be Like the Butterfly


Those four words make you wonder doesn’t it? After all what’s so special about being a caterpillar? Think about. From the caterpillar began its life as a very tiny egg. yet thanks to God and nature it will transform into something beautiful. You too are a special work and transform as well. Let’s take a closer look. Once the egg hatches it becomes a caterpillar. It is during this stage that the caterpillar begins to prepare itself by first eating the leaf it was born on. Once it has reached its appropriate length and weight it begins to form themselves into pupa, also known as chrysalis. of course from the outside it looks as if the caterpillar is resting, but inside the caterpillar is actually changing. if you could peer inside you’d see the stubby looking caterpillar begin the metamorphosis of becoming a butterfly.  When it is ready to emerge from its chrysalis it will be a full grown butterfly.

Now take the same stages and apply it to you. You’ve experienced some heart wrenching moments. They be physically, emotionally, spiritually or a combination. In either case you’ve been blessed to survive it. So now what? Good question. Let’s examine your options:

  1. You could stay stuck in the past. Not a good option for it will cause you to miss out on some wonderful adventures. This could include meeting new friends and experiencing new things including a new relationship rooted in respect and love.
  2. You could carry the hurt with you into the next relationship. Again not a good option. Eventually you run the risk of not even enjoying your own company.
  3. Or, you could reap the lessons from the experience and move forward confident and ready to move to a happier and healthier existence in which you spread your beautiful wings and soar.

Sure there will be setbacks along the way. The key is to persevere and stand rooted in the knowledge that you know how valuable you are. Like the butterfly you are able to bring joy to others as well as yourself. The events of the past don’t have to define who you are today.

So spend time with you and allow your experiences to mold you into something just as beautiful as the butterfly. Now soar!!


Holding On and Pushing Through

Have you ever had a day when it was so difficult to get out of bed? Did it seem as if the effort was too much and you just wanted to have an I’m not feeling it day? I can readily admit that I’ve had my share of days like that. There were some I knew the root cause; such as when I was laid off and no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t find another job. Some mornings I’d awake and say to my self, “why bother it’s just going to be another day like all the rest.” I can vividly remember how my body reacted to such doom and gloom. I’d have headaches, tears would be just at the brink of spilling and of course cold sweaty feet!

Now another time I can remember was just within the past year. I’d been in an accident in which I shattered my wrist and was black, blue and green all over the top half of my body. To get out of bed every morning and prepare for work was such a chore. To bathe took better than 40 minutes. To put on a bra one handed took dexterity I didn’t know I possessed. That’s just to make myself presentable to get to work! Once there I had to find a way to sit in a chair for 8 – 9 hours, then figure out the best way to do my job one-handed. It seemed like the weeks to get to some semblance of normalcy took a long time to appear. So how did I push through? I’m so glad you asked!

In the first instance, I started to think about helping others instead of wallowing in pity. Of course I had someone to kick me into gear on those days when even that didn’t pull me through. I can’t say enough about the husband God blessed me with! He knew when to push, prod, hold my hand, encourage or simply life my spirits by reminding me that our God wouldn’t put any more on me than what he’s already prepared me for. I’ll admit there were some days in which the flesh just didn’t want to hear it. The important lesson is that even so I would tamp down that NEGATIVITY and accept what was offered.

Eventually it became easier and easier to think outside of myself. By doing so I found myself in a position I will always be grateful for. I got to spend a lot of time with my sister-n-law before cancer won and took her away from us. I got to spend lots of time with my niece and nephews as they struggled to deal with their grief and loss and naturally be a shoulder for my brother as he did his best to continue, after all he didn’t have the luxury of staying home. He needed to get back on the road and provide for his children. Had I been working none of the above would have happened. My life was richly blessed because of the experience. And though I miss her dearly I know she’s where there’s no more pain. Though her physical body is not here her spirit and her love remains.

With the car accident again I just wanted to wallow and tend to my aching body. I didn’t know how I’d make it through but before I knew it the aches and pain got more bearable and the task of caring for myself was made easier by a wonderful angel that resided in my home. Yes, you guessed it! My husband for even through his own pain he took care of me, got me to work, picked me up, prepared meals and kept a smile on my face even when all I wanted to do was cry.

I think you can see the formula evolving right? Of course you can! Several weeks ago I talked about the importance of expanding your circle of people surrounding you. So if you aren’t blessed with a husband, wife or significant other then those other people you’ve carefully allowed in your circle should be a source of strength, encouragement and faith-building.

Speaking of faith building. There’s a song with the words, “I need just a little more Jesus,”. This come to mind because my husband and I were listening and singing along with the song while sitting stopped behind a few other cars waiting for the traffic light to turn green when out of no where we were rear-ended. This happened six weeks after my initial accident. Now my husband and I both were suffering but through it all we have persevered; and though we still have some issues we haven’t stopped! Sometimes things happen just to try your faith. We’ve had to encourage each other and help each other! Together we’re stronger than if we had tried and do it on our own.

Yes I’m extremely blessed. I don’t take it for granted for I can easily look back at the old me of years ago and marvel at the change in me. Yes it has a cost but doesn’t anything worth having have a cost. You have to hold on and push through to see the gifts of Grace, Mercy and Peace. We all have faith in something the only question is what does your faith produce? Only you can answer that. All I can do is encourage you to continue to hold on and push through, something amazing will happen!