Category Archives: Thankfulness

Holding On and Pushing Through

Have you ever had a day when it was so difficult to get out of bed? Did it seem as if the effort was too much and you just wanted to have an I’m not feeling it day? I can readily admit that I’ve had my share of days like that. There were some I knew the root cause; such as when I was laid off and no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t find another job. Some mornings I’d awake and say to my self, “why bother it’s just going to be another day like all the rest.” I can vividly remember how my body reacted to such doom and gloom. I’d have headaches, tears would be just at the brink of spilling and of course cold sweaty feet!

Now another time I can remember was just within the past year. I’d been in an accident in which I shattered my wrist and was black, blue and green all over the top half of my body. To get out of bed every morning and prepare for work was such a chore. To bathe took better than 40 minutes. To put on a bra one handed took dexterity I didn’t know I possessed. That’s just to make myself presentable to get to work! Once there I had to find a way to sit in a chair for 8 – 9 hours, then figure out the best way to do my job one-handed. It seemed like the weeks to get to some semblance of normalcy took a long time to appear. So how did I push through? I’m so glad you asked!

In the first instance, I started to think about helping others instead of wallowing in pity. Of course I had someone to kick me into gear on those days when even that didn’t pull me through. I can’t say enough about the husband God blessed me with! He knew when to push, prod, hold my hand, encourage or simply life my spirits by reminding me that our God wouldn’t put any more on me than what he’s already prepared me for. I’ll admit there were some days in which the flesh just didn’t want to hear it. The important lesson is that even so I would tamp down that NEGATIVITY and accept what was offered.

Eventually it became easier and easier to think outside of myself. By doing so I found myself in a position I will always be grateful for. I got to spend a lot of time with my sister-n-law before cancer won and took her away from us. I got to spend lots of time with my niece and nephews as they struggled to deal with their grief and loss and naturally be a shoulder for my brother as he did his best to continue, after all he didn’t have the luxury of staying home. He needed to get back on the road and provide for his children. Had I been working none of the above would have happened. My life was richly blessed because of the experience. And though I miss her dearly I know she’s where there’s no more pain. Though her physical body is not here her spirit and her love remains.

With the car accident again I just wanted to wallow and tend to my aching body. I didn’t know how I’d make it through but before I knew it the aches and pain got more bearable and the task of caring for myself was made easier by a wonderful angel that resided in my home. Yes, you guessed it! My husband for even through his own pain he took care of me, got me to work, picked me up, prepared meals and kept a smile on my face even when all I wanted to do was cry.

I think you can see the formula evolving right? Of course you can! Several weeks ago I talked about the importance of expanding your circle of people surrounding you. So if you aren’t blessed with a husband, wife or significant other then those other people you’ve carefully allowed in your circle should be a source of strength, encouragement and faith-building.

Speaking of faith building. There’s a song with the words, “I need just a little more Jesus,”. This come to mind because my husband and I were listening and singing along with the song while sitting stopped behind a few other cars waiting for the traffic light to turn green when out of no where we were rear-ended. This happened six weeks after my initial accident. Now my husband and I both were suffering but through it all we have persevered; and though we still have some issues we haven’t stopped! Sometimes things happen just to try your faith. We’ve had to encourage each other and help each other! Together we’re stronger than if we had tried and do it on our own.

Yes I’m extremely blessed. I don’t take it for granted for I can easily look back at the old me of years ago and marvel at the change in me. Yes it has a cost but doesn’t anything worth having have a cost. You have to hold on and push through to see the gifts of Grace, Mercy and Peace. We all have faith in something the only question is what does your faith produce? Only you can answer that. All I can do is encourage you to continue to hold on and push through, something amazing will happen!

You Are Your #1 Fan!

Are you a sports fan? Many are, I know I am and I have favorite players in every sport I enjoy watching and following. There may be attributes I like about them when they’re playing and an added bonus is when they have wonderful attributes that go outside their sport into their every day life.

But my favorite player isn’t in a sport, I don’t get to watch them on TV. They don’t have a million dollar salary and make cool commercials. My favorite player is ME, and my playing field is life. And why shouldn’t it be? After all I see ME every morning when I get up, I’m with ME when I brush my teeth, take a shower, get dressed for work and head out the door. I’m with ME as I ride the train and when I get to my office there ME is.

We all should be our own #1 fan. There’s no need to depend on someone else to recognize the great qualities you have or the work ethic you present each day. You don’t need to wait for someone else to tell you you’re beautiful, smart, funny and dependable. You should be able to tell yourself that and repeat it often.

You can laugh at your own jokes, and berate yourself for a mistake yet turn around and be proud of yourself for recognizing your mistake, rectifying the problem and move on. You don’t need anyone else to point out your short-comings after all only you can determine the best way to proceed to make it a positive instead and besides they should be concentrating on their own issues.

In life we will meet all kinds of people, I hope you’re meeting a variety as it will add spice to your life. But none of them can hold a candle to you at being you. Only you can look in your eyes and see the depth of the story you’ve lived. Only you can look at your smile and count the laugh lines and love every one of them. Only you can peer into your heart and see the love you’ve shared and still have to share. Only you can commune with the spirit within you and watch it blossom. Only you can look at your hands and marvel at the work it has performed. Only you have walked in your shoes and traveled along winding roads many taking you to a welcome surprise and at other times sending you on a detour in order to avoid a catastrophe. And only you can continue to walk in your shoes.

Only you can see the real you, so why not be your #1 fan? Why not cheer when you hit a home run. Why not jump for joy when you’ve made a touchdown? Why not get delirious with excitement when you make a winning basket?  Why not pump your fist in triumph when you make that hole in one? Why not shake with giddy anticipation when you’ve swam that last few meters to touch the wall first?

Have I given you enough reasons to be be your #1 fan? I hope so. I got to run now I have to meet my favorite player for some well deserved R and R! Did I tell you who it was, of course I did, ME!




Being Thankful

I want to start today’s Fresh Start Monday by first thanking the men and women who have sacrificed the ultimate so that you and I enjoy the freedoms we have today. Let’s all take a moment to reflect on what life for us would be like had they not done so. And now that brings us to today’s topic…Being Thankful.

So often life throws us so many curve balls that we’re so immersed in catching, avoiding, redoing or whatever that we tend to forget to be thankful. Each of us regardless of where we are in life should have something we’re thankful for each and everyday. If anyone reading this doesn’t agree then my heart aches for you. You see none of us woke up this morning on our own power, so to open our eyes to a day we’ve never seen before is a thankful moment.

When you jumped in the shower and the water ran down your body while you lathered up with your favorite soap or body wash, didn’t it feel wonderful? And when you stepped out of the shower and wrapped a clean towel around your body while you looked in the mirror and brushed your teeth. Were you thankful?

As you looked in the closet to choose what you’d wear were you thankful? Or what about when you made your way to the kitchen and opened the fridge? You stood there deciding on your choice of food to start your day, were you thankful? These are things you do everyday and I’m certain if you’re like me you’ve gone past someone you know didn’t have it as easy as you that day. I’m not talking about those who’ve made that choice to be where they are I’m talking about those who because of circumstances they weren’t in control of have had to do things a little differently than us. But even they still have cause to be thankful. Why? Because they too have been presented with a new day in which they can be thankful for the opportunity to make a new choice, a new decision or choose a different road. It still boils down to their choices.

And yes, I know for some that is a huge challenge so I in no way am trying to belittle the trials they are going through. But back to you and I. We have already started our day better than most. You’re headed to a job, career or your very own business, isn’t that worth being thankful for?  You know that at the end of the week or whenever your compensation time comes around you will be paid for the work you’ve put in. Again another reason to be thankful. It allows you to take care of your necessities and maybe a few wants and if you fall a little short well you’re able to add to it depending on what you want. You can add another job, or turn a hobby into additional funds. It’s up to you.

Let’s not forget about the people in our lives, our spouses, significant others, children, parents, siblings and other extended family members, the list is a long one. There are mentors, friends and the like and don’t forget about your enemies! They serve a purpose too, one being helping you to remember to be thankful for the people in your life who are in your corner and love you just as you love them. I’ve only made a small list I’m sure yours can be as large or small as your universe happens to be.

The point in this little exercise is that we all have something(s) to be thankful for and we should not let the sun set on the day without acknowledging it. After all as my husband is so fond of saying “tomorrow is not promised to any of us for tomorrow never comes until it becomes today!”